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SECRETS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE
Q. You look so happy in your picture. I have heard you have a great marriage. What are your secrets and how do you handle disagreements? J. S. Maui
A. The secrets to a great marriage are really just common sense.
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Take care of yourself. Be responsible for your own health and do what you need to do to stay healthy. Get plenty of exercise. Spend time in nature absorbing the blessings of the earth. Eat right.
2.
Take time to nurture the love. Be generous in your appreciation of your partner. Make sure you explore the many ways to express it. Be creative. Have fun!
3. Inspire each other. Be fearless in your honesty but temper it with kindness.
4. Be committed to intimacy. Allow passion and the joy of being alive and having someone to share it with enliven you.
5. Use relationship as a way for you to understand yourself. Meet each other when challenged and share what is true for you without blame or judgment.
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Use sexual loving as a way to enhance the intimate connection between you. Allow it to flow beyond the boundaries of expectation.
7. Inspire each other. Share your dreams.
8. When you disagree,
don't argue or bicker. Communicate carefully. Look at each other in the eye while talking. Listen to each other with respect. Acknowledge what is said. Sometimes when you listen carefully, long enough, you will
find a place of agreement.
If you can't agree, let the disagreement rest and talk over the problem with a trusted friend or counselor who might bring in a fresh perspective, and pray together for the highest option. When you both know you want what's best for you individually and for the relationship, you will relax and let that highest option percolate into your hearts and minds.
9. Do thoughtful things for one another. When your partner asks you for a favor, do it with a happy heart, if you possibly can.
10. Go vertical regularly. Pray and ask God/Goddess for guidance daily, alone
and together.
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