Attraction To Two Men
Q. I'm in a new relationship with a man I like very much. We're not committed, but we spend a lot of time together and he's very loving and attentive. I've met another man I feel extremely drawn to. The new man is sometimes attentive and sometimes cool. He's just completed a dysfunctional relationship, and is heeding what other's say about not getting involved again so soon. I'm not totally available either, but what do I do with these strong feelings? By the way, both men know about the other.
A. Do nothing rash. Stay connected to your own center and focus on being honest with yourself. Notice how the relationship with your current boyfriend develops. If you feel strongly pulled toward this new man ask yourself, "What does this man have that seems lacking in my current partner? What am I drawn to in this person?" Is this something that can be developed in your current relationship? If so, talk to your partner and share with him what these needs are that are not being met. If what attracts you in the new man is impossible for your current partner to develop, ask yourself how important these things are to you. Make a list of all that you have in your current relationship that holds you there. Make a list of what you think the other relationship would give you. Sit with this as you continue to explore your current relationship. It sounds like you are also seeing this new man. Since there is no commitment, and you are being honest with both men, you have the right to explore your feelings with them. Remain in integrity with yourself and both men, and allow the truth to awaken within you.
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