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Caught In The Middle of An Affair

Q. My brother is having an affair with a married friend of mine. I know and like her and her husband. I feel so duplicitous and torn inside when Im around them. I dont want to be the one to blow the whistle, but I cant stand being in the middle.

A. Being in the middle of something like this is a hard place to be. You must follow your own guidance on which way to go. One way might be to let your brother and friend know how you feel, that it tears you up to be in the middle of this lie. It sounds like you are getting to the point where you cant be a part of it, that it is hurting you. Living a lie never works. It often ends up hurting someone. You have to determine what your heart and soul is telling you, and be true to that.