Gifts And Guilt
Q. I have a man who showers me with love, attention and gifts. I love him, but I don't know if I deserve all this and almost feel guilty receiving so much. Sometimes it's almost overwhelming. I am very grateful, but I don't want to feel obligated. What would you recommend?
A. Receiving is more difficult than giving for many people. Learning to receive gracefully and gratefully is an art form. You sincere appreciation is all that is neededin that regard. However, it is important to feel balanced within yourself so feelings of obligation do not creep in. The balance does not necessarily mean dollar fordollar giving back, but it does mean that you need to feel you are also giving in the relationship. Notice how you give to him. Make a list of these things. You maybe giving affection, compliments, appreciation, doing small or large errands, cooking a meal, making his home more beautiful, giving him little gifts, and /or takingare of other matters that makes his life easier and more fun. If you feel you need or want to give more for you to feel the balance, do so. His lavish attention meansthat who you are and what you are currently giving is enough for him, and is most appreciated!
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