How To Deal With Finances
Q. My newly wed husband and I want to find the best way to deal with our finances. Should we put them together or keep them separate? We are looking for the highest option. M.A. Kihei
A. This is a tough question and the answer is, it depends. The ways in which we deal with finances depends on the amount of trust we have in our partners and ourselves. Start with yourself. Are you a responsible person? Can you trust yourself to be totally honest and in integrity? Do you feel good about how you deal with money? To what extent do you trust your partner? Do you feel he makes good choices in his spending and saving habits? Do you each feel you are energetically giving all you can? Remember, money represents energy. Money usually comes from your individual or collective efforts. If you are both responsible, if you share love and all the juicy things that go with it, why not money? For this to work, you need to know you can trust your partner in regard to money. The first step is talking about how you would like to manage your individual and collective money. Do you have personal debts you bring into the marriage? Does one of you make more than the other? What beliefs from childhood do you hold regarding money? Are you more comfortable with giving or receiving? The more understanding you bring into this conversation, the better choices you will make. We like to look at finances as a big pool with streams of income filling the pool. There are streams coming through each of us and through us collectively. We know the water is coming from a Higher Place, and that it is being given to us by that Source. We are the recipients of it, not the owners. We respect and conserve the pool, and use it as needed. We communicate about what we each feel is necessary, and make sure we both agree before removing any significant reserves from the pool. We communicate our appreciation to Source daily. The highest option is when both people feel comfortable, respected and at ease. A relaxed attitude is definitely part of the highest option. Do what feels most easeful for both of you at this time, and keep sharing your thoughts and feelings with each other. Let your choices support your relationship and your love.
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