Physically Abusive Relationship
Q. How would a woman who is intelligent break out of a dysfunctional, physically abusive relationship?
A. An intelligent woman in a dysfunctional, abusive relationship might first ask herself, “Am I in danger if I say I want to end the relationship?” If she is afraid of what the man will do, she must get help. Women Helping Women and Alternatives To Violence are organizations that can help. If she is not in danger, then she needs to look at why she is choosing to be in the relationship. 1. Is she afraid she cant support herself? 2. Is she afraid no one else would want to be with her? 3. Is she afraid of being single or a single mom? If it is the first, she needs to look at what skills she has, and what additional skills she would need to get to be able to support herself. Every woman should know she can support herself, if needed. Perhaps some job training through MCC or another training institute could help her feel more confident about this. If it is the second, she may need to raise her self-esteem. Counseling, books or tapes on self-esteem can help her with this issue. The third would be coming to terms with being single or a single mom. This could also include help from outside resources, including counseling, women's empowerment programs and/or welfare.
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