Poly Wants A Mono
Q. I've been seeing this man for almost 6 months. He is also seeing another woman, which he told me about from the start. I love him and enjoy him. Id like to be with just him, but he says he wants the freedom to see this other woman. It is painful for me but I dont want to lose him.
A. When you enter into a relationship that is compromising, sooner or later you have to deal with it. The choices we make in life are meant to teach us. When you are in love, it may feel like some is better than none. If you accept the situation as it is, you are making a choice. The courage to choose what we know we need comes from a place of valuing our self worth enough to go for it. When you sign on in a relationship with someone who has a partner, you cannot be assured the person will drop his current partner for you. You have to decide just how important an exclusive relationship is for you. If this is what you truly want in your life, tell your sweetheart that as much as you love him you really desire to be in an exclusive relationship. Wish him well and release him, and be willing to go through the sadness of saying goodbye. Get support from friends, or a counselor, and know that you can have the kind of relationship you want, with someone who wants the same thing.
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