Pressure To Move In
Q. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. I don't know if I'm ready yet. He's starting to pressure me. What should I do?
A. Respect is one of the most important energetics in relationship. The degree to which he respects your feelings and wishes right from the start indicates the future. If he is more interested in his needs and wishes than yours, you can expect more of the same when you move in with him. This is also an important time for you to be clear in the way you communicate your truth to him. If you are wishy-washy in your communication and not clear, his pressure might be to help you make a decision. It sounds like you'd like more time to hang out with him to see if this is the direction you really want to take. If this is the case, tell him clearly that you do not feel ready at this time, and that you need to be respected in your decision. If he continues to pressure you, tell him that this is not the energy you want from a partner, and back off further. Whatever you accept in relationship only grows bigger. If you respect yourself and demand respect from others, you will get.
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